My was a Nyueng Bao woman, the wife of Thai Dei and mother of their son, To Tan.
She drowned in an accident before Bleak Seasons, when To Tan was only a few months old. This occurred early in their people's pilgrimage, so she was spared the infamous Siege of Dejagore. Thai Dei finally opened up and shared some details about My with Murgen the Annalist during She Is the Darkness. He claimed not to have dreams about his deceased wife, because the Nyueng Bao are "are taught to let their spirits go", but Murgen was confident this was not true.